In most cases, aggressiveness of children stems from an unhealthy family environment. Therefore, the question of many mothers: “What makes a child aggressive and how to deal with this phenomenon?” can be answered differently in many ways. It all depends on what is meant by this question. What is more, it is also essential to understand whether an aggressive child is a problem or an issue which can be dealt with.
Each person can become aggressive under the influence of various dangers or in response to the hostility of others. For example, even the gentlest mother can immediately drive away a dog that is rushing barking to her baby. It is believed that children are born with varying degrees of vigor. In the future, it has an impact on the behavior of a child. Many mothers have noticed increased activity of their baby even during pregnancy. This trend usually continues throughout their childhood. Obviously, some children are calm in the first months of life, others are showing their energy and impatience even being few months old, trying to make a point of going back-breaking.
When we speak of an obedient child, we always want to say the word “she” because there is an impression that most obedient and calm kids are girls. Normal aggression and exaggerated forms vary depending on the stage of development. During the first two years of life, rare occasional flashes of anger, which affect almost all children, can be considered as normal. It is important to ensure that such anger is not directed at people. If one watches a situation with an aggressive child, he or she will notice that, even eighteen months old child, being angry at any particular individual, for example, at a mother who robbed him and took away some dangerous object, complains and falls on the floor and starts banging on his arms and legs. One can assume that there is some innate child instinct, not allowing him to hurt people. For children aged one or two years an application of the measures of defense when they are hurt can be considered quite natural. A child hits his “enemy” or pushes him to the floor, trying to get a toy. In other words, aggression, manifested in this age, is direct and immediate.
Overall, such a seemingly very complex issue of a child’s aggression has simple feature which prove that this is not a problem but an issue since defense and slight aggression is normal for children unless they intend to hurt anyone on purpose. Therefore, people should stress on how a child’s environment can affect its aggressiveness. The most important factor here is the individual personality characteristics of a child and parents. Some parents show it easier to manage with girls, while the other – with boys. Some people very cleverly managed the so-called “difficult” children, and others have successfully brought up quiet or shy kids. Still, one cannot imagine a mother who would have thought of all the children as equally difficult …
Posted by: Roseanne Lohmann